Just saw an ad by Fabienne Fredrickson, saying something along the lines:
“after 20 years of coaching I’m more sure than ever before, that the REAL secret is the ‘mindset‘”
Sooo, on the one hand I agree 100% with the observation that the ‘right’ mindset is indeed THE one difference between … well, whatever tickles your fancy
(some random Googling just told me that e.g. on Long Island there are plenty of houses for sale in the $40-$50M range. Yes, that’s an M. And I thought Oxford was ‘expensive’;-) ….
… and hoping that one day you may just hit the jackpot.
On the other hand … I disagree about 99% with the way most ‘self-improvement’ gurus/books/courses go about it:
visualisation, big hairy audacious goals, vision boards, NLP, self-hypnosis … etc.
(and PLENTY of opportunities to pay the guru tens of $K for ‘retreats’ where the ultimate copout is: “well, you clearly didn’t REALLY want it” in case you don’t succeed).
Here’s my take (sooo much cheaper, and so much quicker)
(and this is based on observing what happened in my own life over the last 10+ years of being self-employed, and in plenty of coaching clients’ lives)
by far, the quickest way to ‘fix’ your mindset is to DO some sh*t, get some results, get to the realization that
- it wasn’t as scary and lifethreatening as your subsconscious made it out to be, and
- “man, this s**t works! Wow, let’s do some more of it“
doesn’t (heck: *shouldn’t*) be ‘epic’ stuff.
As they say: it’s all about the baby-steps.
And not getting distracted from doing baby-steps.
Ever seen a baby take their first steps?
They don’t take one step, and then think:
“heck, that’s pretty cool, but look over there, there’s a football. I think I’m going to kick that as step #2. And oh, wow, listen to that music my parents are playing. Tango? I’ll do that as step #3…“
No, boring babies focus on the fundamentals. And do the boring ol’ single stepping until they’ve MASTERED it.
And that’s of course also the reason why so many people go to expensive retreats, visualize until the purple cows come home, plaster their offices in vision boards and so on …
… instead of doing what’s BORING and REPETITIVE.
Goodness me, I hope I didn’t share a big dark secret of ‘home-business’: a lot of it is boring and repetitive…
… and yet I keep doing it until I’ve mastered it, and then, I can systematize it.
I’m going to stop myself here before I go into a full rant, and instead summarize for you:
- mindset is the difference between living on Long Island … or a cardboard box.
- the fastest and most effective way to ‘change/fix’ your mindset is to DO stuff, and get some results – because THAT’s the only real way your subconscious (<- mindset) can change.
- keep the ‘stuff’ small, because anything ‘epic’ is going to scare your subconscious.
And that’s precisely why I’m such a big fan of the LEAN approach, and now very (VERY) excited about the ‘Sprint’ approach (heck, if it’s good enough for Google, it’s good enough for me;-)
As I’ve said in my previous email, if you’re into email-marketing/list-building, check out ‘InboxingPro’, as I’m adding my summary of ‘Sprint’ with my take on how to use the Sprint-approach to list-building (figuring out what people really want, and then giving them just THAT) as a bonus for all buyers of InboxingPro.
In case you haven’t seen my review of InboxingPro yet, here it is:
PS: saw another FB post where someone was ranting about the self-proclaimed ‘experts’ who’ve done something for 6months, and now they’re “experts”.
Yes, if you don’t do anything else, and you’re 100% focused on that one task, you can get pretty dang good at something in 6 months.
But ‘experts’ are people who not only have figured out what works … but also a ton of ways that one thing does NOT work.
And now 6 months is starting to just not have enough time in it….
(when I look back over my 10 years+ of doing this online marketing thing … it would be awesome to see a graph of ‘what worked vs what didn’t work’. It would be like one of those comparisons of ‘the biggest stars in the Universe’: and this speck over here is our sun. And this bad boy over here is alpha-centaurus-mega-omega-3…. where sadly the latter is the stuff that didn’t work;-)
(and when I say ‘sadly’ … it’s of course not ‘sad’: because without those ‘failures’, I wouldn’t know what does NOT work.
So it’s not really ‘failures’ at all, it’s ‘stuff that doesn’t work’)